12 months ago I should have started a wedding planning blog. Especially one focused on those folks who are in the same boat as us planning a wedding from another country. All I can say is thank god for my mum. Without her, this might not be flowing as smoothly as (I think) it is. My grandmother has also been a champion, working so hard to get the property spick and span ahead of the big day. If you didn’t know, the ceremony and the reception will be held at the family property my grandparents have owned for over 30 years now. It means the world for us to be married here. It’s full of memories and allows us to have the low key wedding that we want.
Anyway, here are my big tips for planning a wedding from abroad.
Have a vision
If there are too many cooks in the kitchen (which there will be if you’re planning from afar and relying on people to help you out (see point 2)), it’s important to remember your vision for the day to ground you and remind you of your priorities. It’s very easy to get caught up in the “Just add this to the quote because you can never have enough of X…” or “I don’t think you should do <insert someone’s opinion>, you should consider <insert other opinions>”. Before you know it, your wedding costs twice as much as you’d planned and it’s not even what you wanted in the first place!
Lean on the expertise of your suppliers for help and advice
I’ve been very fortunate to have been recommended some brilliant suppliers in the area who are experts at what they do. Without them, the planning would be much more of struggle. Since the wedding is on a family property, we are literally bringing in EVERYTHING. From bathrooms, to generators, to seating, decorations, caterers, cool rooms, etc. Not being a wedding planner, it was hard to know how many kilovolt amps (kVa) my generator would need to power X, Y, Z. The experts knew and sorted me out.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. The more you ask, the more information you find out!
Now the poor suppliers might hate this piece of advice especially since I ask a lot of questions, as does my mum and grandmother. But better to have asked and be prepared and have a clear plan in place than not knowing and totally panicking if something should go wrong on the day (which I’m told will inevitably happen, so be cool with that). Plus it shows your suppliers that you’re clued on and they better be extra prepared. Even better, if you’re planning a wedding yourself, meet each supplier well before the big day. Show them the venue (if you can) and where you’re thinking of “placing them”, explain who the other vendors will be (they often know each other and how they operate), and allow them to share their opinion. Our day and “layout” changed significantly as a result of doing this, but this re-structure ensures every one has the space, power and logistical set-up that they require to function at their best capacity. Again, I wasn’t able to be present at all of these meet-ups, so my mum championed these meetings, explaining the wedding’s vision and vibe.
Breathe and remember it’s just a fun party
Yep, I wont deny it, there have definitely been moments where it all becomes a bit too overwhelming and we get in a bit of a tizz. Luckily for us, it’s never at the same time so mum and I can calm each other down. (Yes… Oliver hasn’t been a huge part of the wedding planning and I’m ok with that! He’s got a bigger job to do here in Singapore). And finally, remember that your wedding is a fun celebration of you and your partner, surrounded by all the people who love and care for you the most. It’s not the UN General Assembly, so try not to sweat the small stuff if it doesn’t go to plan – most people won’t notice, and as long as everyone is having fun and fed, the party will go on!
The big day is in 46 days and I’ll be sure to update you on how it went! Love M x